Thank you! Either way, definitely worth applying! I don’t think it’s a huge deal. LW says that she feels like this coworker thinks of her as a grandchild. It can be done, but be aware that mass transit (planes in particular because you’re sharing air with everyone aboard) is more dangerous than taking your own car, provided you take proper precautions when driving. I’m sure this happens in other fields as well, but in the more “fun” sciences (I’m in an environmental field) it’s common and grating to talk to people who are very interested and equate that with expertise. But even though there were masking rules….people weren’t great about following them. With all due respect, this whataboutism is ridiculous. Interest rates on mortgages are very low so buyers are everywhere. Oh yeah, I think we agree! That included the staff–I saw a lot of noses. I am currently staying in an Air BNB which has been great. If OP can wriggle out of it gracefully now, it will never build up to the point where this woman is dressing exactly like OP, or coming by her house, or bringing her gifts of unsanitary food. I conducted my housing search remotely and was pleasantly surprised at the results. There was an internal posting at my job I really really wanted but I had about 40% of the essential and none of the desirable criteria. /s. Plus, if they turn you down what are you out? I know firsthand ALL the hoops you had to go through to be considered a good candidate for surrogacy, and to then carry multiples means you are a super carrier! In my field there are many men who apply to positions as a stretch of their qualifications because they expect to be able to learn on the job. The next day, she brought in a huge package of the stuff and gave it to me, “as a joke.” I thanked her and took it home. She needs to see that not only is it disgusting and rude, the items are literally trash to you. It’s really isolating and kind of frustrating and makes it hard to feel like I’m contributing at the level I’m capable of. It would be compared to (for example) following a giraffe rescue group via their social media and website, and they are hiring a media driven support person who has a degree in giraffe zoology studies. Whenever this wannabe grandmotherly coworker brings food, hand it right back saying “I do my own shopping, thank you. Good luck! Then keep it in a bin in your office til you have a few of them, and drop off at the Food Bank. I’m pretty solitary, but still appreciated the socially distanced happy hours my new neighbors were holding out on the sidewalk between condos, and the neighborhood amenities include things like a pool; I put more weight on outdoor recreation availability when looking than I might have without the pandemic. It’s fine for OP to push back on unwelcome gifts. Other things I don’t need to buy new, but the thrift stores are closed. Or calling Salvation Army to pick it up. Accepting the gifts is likely to encourage the coworker to keep pushing for more, which just pushes the awkwardness down the road. Be polite but direct and matter of fact about it. Now, about [topic change]…”. If one of my colleagues decided to be a surrogate, that’s nice for her. The country’s security forces have faced mounting pressure after the Jan. 21 attack in central Baghdad. A friend did this and carried twins for her friend. One trip I drove, one trip I flew. Those are what I spend 98% of my time dealing with these days. Is there anything more I can do, or am I stuck with food and clothes until she retires? The women are wayyyyy qualified – and the men are not qualified. It can be uncomfortable if you’re not used to it, but it gets easier the more you do it. Highly suggest only going with airlines that do the no middle seat thing and honestly I think only Delta is still doing it. The main paragraph describing the work is usually accurate (because the hiring manager wrote it fresh). Especially if it is, like in this case, not targeted toward a whole team but rather one on one. We both pulled each other’s names for Secret Santa. Also, she is entitled to her opinion, just as you are entitled to yours. Like you say, pushing a gift on someone who says they don’t want it is not actually nice. There’s plenty of evidence, including this line from OP: “I thought I made it clear the last time that I don’t want any gifts from her”. #1 My mom is kind of like this. Hi LW #5. Because now most everybody feels obligated to buy coffee for the office. He gave me a dildo. The stress that was created was due to my stupid roommate not having his move own move organized. LW 5: I’m seeing a lot of people speak on logistics, which is obviously important. First time I had it come up, a then-SO mentioned his close friend being a surrogate for a male gay couple she was friends with, and my reaction was “wow how fantastic of her to do this.” I’ve been pregnant twice, and though both were very easy pregnancies, and I was in my 20s at the time, it was still hard. They claim men apply for jobs where they don’t have all the qualifications, and women don’t, so they tell their presumed female audience to apply for more jobs where they don’t have all the qualifications. But, I do think people are unlikely to bring up their discomfort with it in a business context. In any case, I do think it’s pushing intimacy in a boundary-crossing way. We couldn’t be in our house for a few weeks this fall and started in a long-term stay hotel. She’s nice enough, and does things like buys donuts for everyone in the morning and covers shifts other people don’t want to do. An email was sent out explaining the situation, at her request, so people knew not to bring it up to her. No one wanted them, and he used our dues for floor activities to pay for them. Giuffre had also sparred online with people angered by her tweets denying that President Trump should be praised for the arrests of Epstein and his accused madam, Ghislaine Maxwell, during his presidency. My mom does that. Yeah I said “I ‘d really just prefer to have a living child this time” more times than I could count when I was pregnant. Sometimes marketeers have to become surface-level experts in pretty niche industries, it’s very, very common! This does put a slightly different spin on it as well (taken in concert with your other comments) as now there’s an element of flirtiness. And the “treat” would have been going out to a nice dinner or something. Although part of me is intrigued what else she’s going to bring in from the condiment aisle. That was the most nerve wracking part of it, but we had a good real estate agent who took tons of pictures and videos during a socially-distanced, individual appointment visit to the house, and she gave us her expert assessment. For work, the reason we went through with the move was because my partner negotiated making his position permanently remote. My gifts to my children had no strings attached. I found the open position due to my huge interest in this field. It’s a human tragedy. Lugging furniture and boxes is hard work so I understand them not liking the masks, but they responded fine to the reminders – no defensiveness. I always laughed at this because my coverage had to be better qualified than I was. I’d have absolutely no problem doing that! Good advice for life, not just job-seeking, tbh. Shoppen bei saturn. Good luck! It isn’t much, but it makes such a difference. All you can really do is keep declining and be clear that if she has food she needs to get rid of, the proper place to donate is a local food bank. Someone asked if they’d mind if they got half olives, and I said I’d eat a couple of slices. This is to say that maybe you can prevent/derail negative reactions by telling people you’re doing this for a sibling or a very close friend who’s unable to get pregnant or carry to term. I had been very careful and was living in a part of the country with strong stay orders and where everyone followed the rules. I’m sure if it was an emergency, we could have gotten help, but best to be prepared to either handle minor repairs yourself or wait. I’m sure Alison means well, but you have to work with this person, right? People on Tumblr like to talk about #3 in gendered terms. This is a terrible idea, why should the OP have to be the one to dispose of an unwanted gift from a coworker? Yeah, has a bad vibe of trying to buy friendship, which never works out well in any type of relationship. He calls back: “They said it’s 85% of X and is non-negotiable.” Women are trained to be concerned about other’s feelings to a degree that men aren’t. I stayed in an extended stay motel for the first month so I would have some leeway to find housing. If you have strong skills in your function, a smart hiring manager will recognize that and value it over relevant experience, even in an industry that’s super lingo-heavy like mine. Well, I’ve had plenty of potential donations refused, both of food and good quality clothes. Then your job application gets run past a person who ranks you on the special points system the federal gov uses for applicants, who usually doesn’t know anything about the gov job you’d actually be working at. We did hire movers for the first time ever, and the day after they took our stuff, I set off with 2 kids and a cat to drive across country in late June. Outdoor space!!! One very wise and famous man called Bernard Baruch said, “Those who matter don’t care and those who care, don’t matter” . have a read of this I agree, and when returning the stuff I would add, “I really don’t like to waste food or see it used as a joke.”. Is there any way to say “we’re not friends, we’re pleasant colleagues” that wouldn’t set the gifter off? I currently work in a job where I work with clients regularly in what used to be in-person meetings and is now either Zoom or phone calls. Offer them tangible things that you’ll do to show that you’re serious about WFH- such as your home office set up that will ensure that you can perform your duties just as well as if you were in the office. 2-time surrogate here, once for local friends and once for an international single dad. Well, I was just interviewed and I brought up this issue, saying I could travel in a German-speaking country but I couldn’t like, review contracts in German. how should I handle joking around during mental health discussions with my team? If you have never had someone give you unwanted gifts or want a more personal relationship than you do then it may be hard to understand how awkward that is. I got a new job last summer. A lot of places are doing online viewings now, and I know most jobs in my area have taken interviews remote. Just a hazard to be careful about hotels. Everyone employed in federal government who has gone through this part of hiring has lied on this stage of the application; gov hiring managers will literally instruct you to just mark yourself the best here. Mask compliance was awful at a few of our stops but pretty good overall. I think gifter colleague is feeling anxious and insecure about her place at work. Yeah, this. Think about that when you “don’t know what to do w/unwanted gifts.”. (Only grocery stores, liquor stores, and pharmacies are open.). That’s nearly impossible for a layperson to do on their own. It’s a penny ante; play the hand and see what happens! It generally shut the conversation down. Exactly. 4. You couldn’t pay me a million dollars to fly through Southwest’s terminal at Washington-Reagan right now, for example. Plus, it runs the risk both that the coworker will see it as them being closer than they are (friends rather than colleagues) and potentially make other colleagues feel that there is a clique or that there’s favoritism going on. It may be a little different in your situation, but if you share the details you are willing to share in an upbeat tone, most people will have the manners to pick up on that. Describing the unexpected challenges that affected your projects puts your work in context. They arrived at noon and had everything out within about 45 minutes. Fewer people touching my things and breathing on them is better. It’s definitely been hard, but totally worth it for me, as I loved both of those jobs. The movers were great, very professional, and we just wore masks the whole time. I am carrying for a couple who cannot complete their own family.” 99% of the time they’d actually be thrilled for me/IPs, and congratulate me for what I was doing (and carrying multiples is hard!). You can mention that to show that you’re interested but make it clear that you don’t think you’re a self-taught expert. Once you open up a tiny bit, people have all kinds of inappropriate questions to ask. I recently moved from PA to the Washington DC area. I did a short-distance move (about 200 miles) the week before Thanksgiving. Or report it anonymously to OSHA. When I cleaned the bathroom after the move, I used gloves. What you describe here does sound excessive and boundary-crossing. Verify your free subscription by following the instructions in the email sent to: It’s a tradition that’s lasted eight decades. I still don’t know a lot of people, but I have a core of support that is worth its weight in gold. There are all sorts of negative opinions I get from the “Well, I just think” people even as they know I am well into this pregnancy. She’ll be a bit frosty with the LW if that has to happen, but oh well. My experience has been that sometimes people don’t understand how much a given issue matters if you are too nice or too indirect about it. When I am clearing thru clutter before a thrift shop drop off I will occasionally pull out things I think a coworker may need or appreciate. LW2 – first of all – congratulations. We managed to make sure everyone had the right size of PPE and knew how to do their job without serious safety hazards. I think I actually did really excellent work this past year despite the pandemic and a natural disaster that left my home (where I work 40-80% of the time) without power or internet for two weeks. My partner did most of the research on apartments- I think he did a lot of deep dives in VT reddit to read up about neighborhoods and then narrowed it down to one apartment complex that was in a good location with nice amenities. If you’re headed to an area with substantial transmission, you might want to check the policies of places like the DMV, utility providers, etc. They asked us to simplify. For the federal employment, there’s a stage separate from your resume that is a self-survey of whether you meet certain job qualifications. Talk about how you can take complex topics and distill them for your average reader – give them the info they need to know you could do the job, without the fancy degree (if it’s not a hard requirement). Don’t use the words “normal way” though, as that is really othering language for anyone who needs assistance to build their family. I wish I had a nickel for every time some well-intended individual has applied for a job at an animal hospital with zero experience or training, but “I love animals.” Or worse, “I have 5 dogs and I don’t even take them to the vet, I treat them all myself with stuff I get from Tractor Supply.”, For a media/communications job, though, I think there is more room to include this in a professional way. Otherwise we would have been two weeks with no internet. But there’s no reason not to try. 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